Lets Talk About Botox…Again

In my book, Living with Vaginismus, I talk about the Botox Procedure and mention it briefly again in my blog post Best Tips/Advice Relating to Vaginismus. I then shared Botox Stories from Reddit to give you a better idea of other individual's perspective on the procedure. Today, I'm going to re-visit this topic because more …

“Be a Lady They Said”

Katrin With Love posted this video on my Living with Vaginismus Facebook Group. I was so happy she did she because this video leaves a very powerful message for the viewer. Be A Lady They Said When I watched this video, I instantly began to tear up without even realizing it. I got goosebumps and …

Fear of Intimacy and Ways to Overcome it

One thing that many women who suffer from vaginismus fear, or end up being afraid of, is intimacy. I never used to be afraid of intimacy, but after knowingly having vaginismus and experiencing painful sex for almost 2 years, I began to shy away from it. Keep in mind intimacy doesn't mean just sex. Intimacy …

New Gynecologist

Happy Saturday! Yesterday, I had my appointment with a new gynecologist, since I go through them like cheap clothes. I'm always hesitant with new doctors because 99.9% of the time they don't offer me any new solution for my condition. However, this appointment was different and left me hopeful. Naturally, gyno appointments have always been …

Tips to Help the Anxious Brain Sleep

Are you having trouble sleeping lately? I'm not sure what it is, but everyone in my office and personal life are having the worst time getting a good night's sleep. I don't think I've had a full nights sleep in 2 weeks. So, after talking with my therapist, because I had absolutely no idea why …

It’s Time for a Change!

It’s time for a change! I don’t view this as a negative. Everyone needs change in their life! Lately, I’ve been feeling really depressed and I don’t want to fall down that rabbit hole again. My depression could be heightened because of the whole Day Light Savings thing and lack of Vitamin D, but vaginismus …

*Another Lube Update*

About a month ago I had posted a *Lube Update*. Feel free to click the link to read about that before continuing with this new update! After that "lovely" experience with the previous lube, my husband and I went to CVS to try and find something else. Again, I don't have any PTO time left …

Sixteen and Terrified of Tampons

I'm going to preface this post by saying that I have the flu, and I'm doing my absolute best to have this whole blog post make sense. Let's continue... I thought I'd share a story that might be relatable to some of my fellow vaginismus friends. Is that even a thing: "vaginismus friends?" God, I'm …

*New Lube Update*

After the wedding, I decided to get back on track working with the dilators. I felt that: 1. I would have more time to devote to them and (hopefully) be less stressed out. 2. I also wanted to get back into the habit of using them if I planned to get the Botox procedure in …

How to Use Dilators Correctly

Dilators: Those annoying, yet helpful, phallic-looking plastic, silicone or glass instruments used to help stretch the PC muscles ❤️ Pediatric sizes Vaginal sizes Many women are given dilators without any instruction on how to use them. Of course, these cylindrical tools can be extremely helpful if used correctly. Physical Therapists will show you how to …