Surgery Consultation

With everything going on in the world right now, it feels weird to write a blog about myself. I truly hope all of you are healthy and not struggling financially, like so many are. It's a crazy time we are living in right now. On Tuesday, I had my surgery consultation with my new gynecologist/surgeon. …

Lets Talk About Botox…Again

In my book, Living with Vaginismus, I talk about the Botox Procedure and mention it briefly again in my blog post Best Tips/Advice Relating to Vaginismus. I then shared Botox Stories from Reddit to give you a better idea of other individual's perspective on the procedure. Today, I'm going to re-visit this topic because more …

Vulvar Desensitization

Thinking Beyond the Dilators I was given this link by Jackie Leduc, Owner of Cumberland Yoga & Mobility Studio in Ottawa Ontario. I'm attaching her website link HERE! Go visit because she's very knowledgeable on the subject of Pelvic Floor healing and an all around wonderful human being 🙂 When I sat down to read …

Fear of Intimacy and Ways to Overcome it

One thing that many women who suffer from vaginismus fear, or end up being afraid of, is intimacy. I never used to be afraid of intimacy, but after knowingly having vaginismus and experiencing painful sex for almost 2 years, I began to shy away from it. Keep in mind intimacy doesn't mean just sex. Intimacy …

The Bike Accident

It hit me yesterday that I don't think I ever wrote a post on a bike accident I had when I was in 1st grade that probably contributed to my vaginismus on some level. There are a lot of contributing factors that caused my vaginismus, but I have already talked about those in posts (strict …

You Are Not Broken and You Never Were

Broken: Having been fractured or damaged and no longer in one piece or in working order.Webster's Dictionary I can't tell you the countless times I've told myself that I'm broken because of my vaginismus. However, what defines "broken?" I used to think that because I couldn't have sex something was wrong with me. Everyone else …

Tips to Help the Anxious Brain Sleep

Are you having trouble sleeping lately? I'm not sure what it is, but everyone in my office and personal life are having the worst time getting a good night's sleep. I don't think I've had a full nights sleep in 2 weeks. So, after talking with my therapist, because I had absolutely no idea why …

It’s Time for a Change!

It’s time for a change! I don’t view this as a negative. Everyone needs change in their life! Lately, I’ve been feeling really depressed and I don’t want to fall down that rabbit hole again. My depression could be heightened because of the whole Day Light Savings thing and lack of Vitamin D, but vaginismus …

Do Not Give Up

Becoming irrelevant is a hard pill to swallow. I’ve noticed this pattern within the last 6 - 8 months. Of course, I wish I could spend money on promoting things, like my book, my Facebook support group and my other social media accounts. Of course, I wish I lived in a larger town and reached …

Overcoming can be hard

Overcoming something is a challenge and can be scary. It's not a simple straightforward path that we walk down. Sometimes we are forced to jump hurdles, are stopped by road blocks, and might make a wrong turn here or there. However, none of this makes you weak. It's all part of the process proving that …