Does Mental Health Make You Uncomfortable?

Many people are living their lives, while the rest of us are simply trying to survive. Every day is a fight to not give up on yourself and to keep moving forward. It might seem like such an easy thing to the person next to you, and some people might think you are silly for having such a hard time with life. However, despite being unable to take my own advice, you aren’t silly. Good for them for not having the same struggles as you or for being able to tackle things differently. We would love to be able to think like them if we could and we would love to be happy. In fact, we are jealous that they are able to feel happiness at all. Unfortunately, we just don’t work that way, and who are they to belittle your problems or your actions, especially when they aren’t the ones walking in your shoes?

When I spoke to my therapist about how I don’t understand why people can’t care about others or even want to learn about the lives of others, she explained that the sad truth is most people don’t think that way. 

Most people are simply uncomfortable when they talk to others who have depression. They change the subject because they are uncomfortable. They don’t help you because they are uncomfortable. They make jokes because they are uncomfortable. They are uncomfortable because they don’t understand. They do all of these things because they have never experienced it before and don’t know how to handle the situation. 

Others simply don’t care. I’ve realized that the majority of people honestly don’t care about others and only care about themselves. They will change the topic when you try to tell them how you are feeling because they really just want to talk about themselves. They turn whatever you are saying into something about themselves because that’s all who they really want to talk about. They avoid talking to you when you are seeking out help because the focus of the conversation is solely about you and they don’t find it worth their time. 

Obviously, the latter of these individuals are much worse and you should avoid those in your life who show these characteristics. Why be around someone who doesn’t even care about you? It’s not worth your time and effort. You are already tackling so much that you don’t need those additional little black clouds hanging above your head.

“I’m very impressed that you’ve made it this far!” 

“How have you managed to continue living? What’s kept you from not giving up?”

“You are truly one of the most remarkable human beings I have had the privilege of getting to know, and I’m not just saying that. I truly mean this with all my heart.”

Even though the first two might sound like a dig, they honestly mean as much to me as the last sentence. All of these were said to me by health professionals and my response to the first two has always been, “I don’t know why I haven’t given up yet. That’s a question I keep asking myself as well.”

It’s nice to feel validated. It’s nice when someone tells you that, “You haven’t lived an easy life, despite what it might look like on the outside.” It makes me feel less like a failure. 

When everyone else is enjoying themselves and genuinely experiencing those pivotal moments life has to offer, but you are watching those moments pass you by, it’s a pretty miserable existence. When those moments are occurring around you, but you can’t feel or truly appreciate any of it, it’s gutting. It’s heartbreaking because you want to feel, and you try so hard to feel, but you simply can’t. Yet, everyone else around you is laughing and having a great time, so you play along. You play along because you don’t want to make those around you uncomfortable. 

This brings me back to full circle. Society finds things like mental health extremely uncomfortable, so for those of us struggling with it, we internalize our emotions. We pretend to be happy because that is the expectation, and we worry that if most people knew the real us, they wouldn’t want to be around us anymore. 

So here are my two questions:

  • Does mental health make you uncomfortable?
  • If you struggle with mental health issues, has society made you feel uncomfortable?

5 thoughts on “Does Mental Health Make You Uncomfortable?

  1. Hey hey, just want to validate you that depression is hard and those who are dismissive of your struggle can go f off. Mental health stigma is definitely strong, which is very unfortunate. I do believe it helps to have caring friends even if someone else might scoff that it’s mostly online.

    For what it’s worth, you’re not alone in this struggle, and I’m going to keep reading. ❤

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