*Another Lube Update*

About a month ago I had posted a *Lube Update*. Feel free to click the link to read about that before continuing with this new update!

After that “lovely” experience with the previous lube, my husband and I went to CVS to try and find something else. Again, I don’t have any PTO time left to get into a gyno appointment this month, so I knew I was going to have to wait until next month to get lidocaine.

Luckily, he found a gyno who knows about the Botox procedure for vaginismus, has many clients who have undergone the procedure successfully and is happy to prescribe me with a higher dosage of lidocaine. That appointment is happening January 24th.

Fingers crossed that everything goes well! I always try to not get my hopes up too high with these appointments because they always end in disappointment for me but, from her discussion with him, it sounds extremely promising. So, I honestly can’t help but feel a little hopeful.

What we picked up at CVS was a very simple lube: Wet Platinum Lubricant.

I wasn’t super thrilled with just that, so I kept searching for something else that might have a higher dosage of lidocaine in it that I could use vaginally. After calling multiple nurse friends and having them explain that X, Y and Z were not good to use internally, we ended up getting Icy Hot Maximum Strength Lidocaine plus Menthol.

I was skeptical at first because this was still something that we can’t use internally, so I simply have to apply it around the vaginal area externally to try and numb the muscles from the outside. It just didn’t seem like it would work.

The first time I applied it was interesting. The icy hot feeling was strange to have down there and I had to have it on for 30 minutes before I used the dilators with the lubrication I got. It’s hard to explain the feeling, but saying that the Icy Hot was very cold is an understatement.

I used the Platinum Lubricant on my smallest dilator, since previously that was the only thing I could insert without much resistance, and realized that it went in pretty smoothly. I decided to keep that one in and do some internal exercises with it and that the next time I would increase the size.

Increasing the size was still not easy, but MUCH better than using the KY Jelly beads. I was able to insert it most of the way and sit there for 15 minutes without extreme discomfort. Unfortunately, I still couldn’t get the dilator in fully. However, I’m sure that will change with repetition/practice.

Overall, using the Icy Hot was a surprising find that is worth trying. I’m still using it and plan to use it even once I get lidocaine that I can apply internally. I think it did help to relax my muscles some, but it was still not to the extent that I would like. However, a combination of internal and external lidocaine sounds like a pretty promising mix.

I applied the Icy Hot cream even on the skin connecting the vagina to the legs, so essentially the inner thigh. When I was in Physical Therapy, my PT mentioned massaging those muscles was pertinent because they contained muscles and nerve endings attached to the main vaginal muscles. (I’m not a doctor, nor did I ever study anatomy, so forgive me if that explanation isn’t 100% correct. I feel like the main jist is there and that seems important enough :).

If you have any questions, feel free to ask them below.

I will mention that someone had told me to try Emla Cream but, once I did research, I found there to be numerous problems with this particular cream.

It does do what it’s intended to do: it purposely numbs the muscles. However, if used for extended use, it’ll make those muscles atrophy and then you can’t use them anymore. This cream also required specific temperature conditions that all of us don’t have easy access to because it’s purely meant to be used and stored in hospitals for surgeries. They don’t even sell it in the U.S. to regular consumers, so I was having to look at Canadian and European sites to find it. Even then, some sites wouldn’t let me purchase it because my address is in the U.S.

Additionally, I want to make another point on here. When you see lubes that say they are pH balanced, just be wary. Don’t immediately assume that they are good for you because they say this.

My nursing friends mentioned that many companies will have this pH balance on the bottle, but that it isn’t necessarily balanced with a vagina’s natural pH. You don’t want to put anything into your vagina that will counteract its natural process. Even when I asked them about using anal cream for vaginal use, since most anal creams have lidocaine, they told me not to.

Certain lubricants with a pH balance can be okay, but they need to be very specific to the vaginal balance. Your own pH balance can also differ from those next to you, and age also depends on what pH balance is considered “normal.”

A normal vaginal pH level is between 3.8 and 4.5, which is moderately acidic. However, what constitutes a “normal” pH level can vary slightly based on your stage of life.

For example, during your reproductive years (ages 15 to 49), your vaginal pH should be below or equal to 4.5. But before menstruation and after menopause, a healthy pH tends to be higher than 4.5.

So why does vaginal pH matter? An acidic vaginal environment is protective. It creates a barrier that prevents unhealthy bacteria and yeast from multiplying too quickly and causing infection.

A high vaginal pH level — above 4.5 — provides the perfect environment for unhealthy bacteria to grow. Having a high vaginal pH puts you at risk for these infections.

Healthline, Deborah Weatherspoon, PhD, RN, CRNA

In fact, when I was in college I got Bacterial Vaginosis for this reason. Women who have this condition are at a higher risk for HPV, herpes simplex and HIV. So, I’m simply explaining this as a bit of a warning.

Thanks for reading!

5 thoughts on “*Another Lube Update*

    • Sorry! I realized the blog post on it is privated because I used the excerpt in my book. However, the Botox Procedure basically retrains the muscles and helps you to see sex in a positive light. The catch is that you have to keep up with the exercises and inserting the dilators or having sex for so many weeks or else the brain won’t really rewire. The injections don’t last, so you need to take that initial time when the botox is still in your system to do those exercises to get in the mindset of seeing sex as positive and painless. I hope that makes sense. It has a 90% success rate from what I’ve read about.

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